Why spend money on psychological counseling? What is the difference between psychological counseling and chatting?

Text: Yu Jiarong The psychologist of the advisor

When I am in trouble, I ask my Gu Mi to have an afternoon tea to complain about my pain. Isn’t it also a temporary relief for me? Why do I have to spend money to find someone I don’t know as a psychological advisor?

Psychological counselors can achieve the effect of "emotional ejaculation" when chatting with ordinary people, just like you and your colleagues have a car with the boss today. When you complain about someone, you will feel particularly comfortable and you will be able to fight for another few days! This is "emotional ejaculation".

The main reason for psychological counseling is not to let you ejaculate your emotions, but to help you to see yourself out of the bottle and find out the cause of the problem after you ejaculate.

●The psychologist is listening to your "word"

Our training allows us to hear your "word" and is a very important part of solving problems or self-exploration. In psychology, it is called "observation".

For example, "I am really angry that my dad always makes me poor in the exam! 'Often friends may say 'Your dad is really a car. Is he too strict with you! '

And what the psychologist hears is the words in the words, for example, 'Your father seems to only care about your achievements and not care about your courses. In addition to being young, he also feels lost and the feeling of being loved! 』

●Psychologists will not give advice at will

When you don’t know a person yet, giving advice at will is a dangerous thing! We don’t give advice or not.

For example, "I am really angry that my dad always makes me poor in the exam! 'When, most friends may say, 'Then don't tell your father immediately next time! ' (or Lima gave other suggestions) You and I cannot guarantee whether this suggestion is really suitable for her...

Psychologists will evaluate and understand what they want to express behind this sentence, how the father and daughter interact, whether they have discussed this topic...and then let us explore the most suitable method with the other party!

●Neutral relationship/view of psychologists

Freud once said that psychologists should become "blank screens", that is, they hope that psychologists will become a person/relationship as much as possible. For example, when you describe your boyfriend, you will not worry about sitting opposite him. You may meet your boyfriend later, so you want to respect all your boyfriend's face, so you are conservative and say that you are dissatisfied with your boyfriend. And it will cause the other party to have an incorrect assessment and judgment.

●How to face the treatment emotions

Last, but it does not mean that it is least important. The psychologist will accompany you through every sleepy low point and puzzled emotion. The psychologist will discuss with you how to deal with emotions, such as what can be done when you are angry and what can be done when you feel you are not in love. This will be the professional and value of the psychologist! ! !

[This article is authorized by 8 Health News Network. The original title is: [Yu Jia Wenshang Psychologist] What is the difference between psychological Wenshang and chat? 】