It is suitable from national diplomacy to mother-in-law and daughter-in-law s relationship! Money-returned wife Tian Lingling: A gift that can be turned into swords and jade

Note: Former Foreign Minister and U.S. Representative Money Revenge Tian Lingling is a well-known gift-giving expert in the circle of friends. In the past, during her time in the Hua Mansion, she helped her husband maintain her relationship with international friends through gifts, banquets and marriages. In private, her attentiveness and thoughtfulness in preparing gifts makes people forget. She pointed out that Rongshang is a tradition of Chinese culture. How to use the wisdom of gifts in life?

There are many gifts at the home of former Foreign Minister Moi and his wife Tian Lingling. There is a story behind each item: the fan on the wall comes from the money-lost uncle, thanks to the nephew's wife for taking care of her sister; there is a pottery bowl signed by Sezi on the table, which is an unpaid treasure that couples usually don't want to use. There is also the small, crystal clear flask that has been brought back from the Czech Republic, so that the hostess can call her family without having to speak and sway. With a crisp sound, Su sucked her husband's body stick to his wife.

As the wife of a diplomat, Tian Lingling, who is 83 years old, is known as "half diplomats". She often receives gifts and is better at giving gifts long-term gifts. Xu Huiying, the wife of former Nicaragua ambassador Fang Jinyan, remembered that once his daughter ate a delicious red meat at a money house and was curious about how to cook it. Afterwards, Tian Lingling not only bought a boiled pork crock, but also burned her hooves and gave them to her daughter. The thoughtful philosophy of history makes it difficult for anyone who has experienced it in his body to forget it.

This pack received and delivered countless gifts. Tian Lingling believed that giving gifts was a big deal, no matter in Chinese and Western societies. A carefully prepared gift can convey affection, build friendship, and can resolve potential troubles. The wisdom of understanding "gifts" will benefit you throughout your life.

The first gift of Xiaomuma in the Anti-Japanese War was the first gift of his parents in his life, and it had a deep meaning for Tian Lingling. Born in Jiangxi in 26 years in the Republic of China, she is a true "Beijinghuo Nude". It was during the War of Resistance, and Dad Tian was an air force, and every time he took the mission, he might be a life-and-death relationship. Once, my mother hugged her, who was just a month old, and heard a chat in the kingdom: "No, today we went out with three planes and two planes were killed!" My mother stood alone in the yard, her heart sinking. "My mother was beaten so big. When I think about it now, it's still difficult." Tian Lingling recalled this past event with red eyes.

In such a difficult era, Tian Lingling received the first gift to be impressed in her life - a small wooden horse at the age of 3. Although in the era of separation, the family moved many times, Muma no longer knew where to live. But in Tian Lingling's memory, that was the first love of her parents. "On the basis of love, you will be happy to get any gift."

The big environment in the early years was not as broad as today, and everything was not easy. The parents' attitude towards things also deeply influenced Tian Lingling. The most profound scene in her childhood was that her mother carefully washed a glass cup and shone under the sunlight in front of the window. My parents’ lifestyle not only cherishes the items they hold on their hands, but also reminds her: You can’t do things well, and do it well if you want to do it.

The "half diplomat" of the United States turned into war into jade shady in 1972. In the Republic of China, Money became the representative of the United States, and opened the family's age for five years and eight months in Washington. At that time, Taiwan and the United States had broken diplomatic relations and had no formal national relations, so many diplomatic affairs were difficult to develop. Tian Lingling talked about the difficulty of working in the United States at that time, and doing things in the Chinese government was too high-profile, which may lead to disputes; but being too low-profile will be skewed and will try not to see the results. The degree of determination is a difficult learning question.

In diplomatic work, gifts and banquets are all a circle for entrepreneurs. Tian Lingling, who has a master's degree in the Bookstore at the American Vanderburg University, also has a set of unique skills. She has a box of personal data cards that record information coming to the target. All the characteristics of senior officials, positions, birthdays, family members, special preferences, and even wedding anniversary and extra dates …… Details of all sizes are recorded on the live page card.

It is often not suitable for direct political talk, but also to engage in relationships, and the topic becomes very important. These notes are the best source of conversation before each event. A sentence "Mary is doing well recently? How is the piano playing?" can bring each other closer. Tian Lingling smiled and said that once she chatted with a wife and mentioned the school where the child would read. The other party replied with surprise: "My child also attends that school!" She happened to ask, "Maybe our children can get together more?" In fact, she had known that the other party's children were in the same school as her own children. I know the reason, just to open up the topic and create opportunities.

Send gifts, and you can also open an opportunity. The friendship between Tian Lingling and former US President Lao Bush's family was to send gifts. After returning money, she was invited to play basketball. She chatted with a lady on the side of the field, and later she found out that the other party was Mrs. Bush's secret book. She specially prepared spring rolls and water, accompanied by seasonings and edible instructions, so she asked the secretary to join the old Bush family. The delicious Chinese cuisine really caught the Bush family's stomach and made Barbara reply to the letter of thanks. Later, she also attended events held by the Double Rubber Park, which gave Taiwan another heavyweight international friend.

How to send gifts to your heart? Remember the great principle of "putting one's heart"

The same gift wisdom is also applicable to family members. Taking the question of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law's relationship with women as an example, Tian Lingling believes that being a daughter-in-law is indeed more thoughtful than being a daughter. After all, "I didn't know you before, why should I be nice to you?"

That year, after Tian Lingling got married with Money, the couple lived with their parents-in-law for a long time. As the first mother's day when she married into the money family, she chose two pieces of fabrics of different colors and planned to give them to her mother and mother-in-law to make clothes. But she let her mother-in-law take a look at the piece of cloth that she gave to her mother first. The purpose is to express full respect to her mother-in-law and let her know that her daughter-in-law is not biased. During the 12 and a half years of living together, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has finally become harmonious. Before the mother-in-law died, she also specifically told Xuezi: "In the future, you should look for a partner like a mother." She was quite affirming the performance of Tian Lingling, a daughter-in-law.

Time passed by, and now Tian Lingling herself has become her mother-in-law. "My daughter-in-law only enters your house after she becomes an adult. Don't try to change other people's views." She pointed out that mother-in-law should be in line with her daughter-in-law, and sincere concern is the best gift. Sometimes a simple question: "Is it good today?" and "I felt uncomfortable last time. Did you see a doctor?" will make my wife feel relieved. She also gave the erectile stylus and earrings from the previous generation to her daughter-in-law with exquisite meanings to her wife, showing her love for her.

A foreign friend, Hetian Lingling, once complained that she had stayed at her son's house and felt that her daughter-in-law was not very welcome to her. After asking, I found out that she stayed with her son's house and only asked her husband to have a meal once. Tian Lingling told her that she had to wear a slutty and hard work in her daughter-in-law Zhang Luo's family: she had to wash a bathroom towel, clean the pillowcase and quilt, and deliberately change the remaining toothpaste. She suggested to her friends, "You should be particularly good to your daughter-in-law and give her a gift."

Even if you give gifts to friends, Tian Lingling has her own discussion. Male family friends should give gifts such as belts, pens, leather belts, and other things you can use in life. Women may not necessarily meet the other party’s preferences due to their personal tastes. General things such as food, fruits, flowers, etc. are safer choices.

In addition, every time you deliver a gift, you must choose the appropriate paper bags and belts and pack them well. For example, one day on her nephew's birthday, she chose silver cufflinks as a gift. Not only did I wipe it with a silver cloth beforehand, I also found a strip of silk scarf and placed it in the box, and sent it with the cards. Thinking from the perspective of the recipient and preparing gifts carefully is also a respect for others.

She also mentioned that gifts are not necessarily physical substances. She and several wives of the support club formed the "Laughter Friends Club" for more than 20 years. Everyone worked as a laborer, gathered regularly every month, and shared life information. As the members grow older, many people have experienced the pain of being alone and having sex. When someone is in a low mood, others will find ways to make her smile. For example, comforting your partner who was born first: "Who told them to call "Mr."? Mr. will leave first!"

"At our age, it is easy to feel lonely and feel that life is a little helpless. It can make others relax and happy, and it is also a gift," said Tian Lingling.

Practicing muscles, bones, and brain health is the biggest gift to you

Zhang Luo has given gifts countless times in his life. Now the gift that Tian Lingling wants most is not any tangible thing. At the age of 63, her body was a little unsuitable. I thought it was just a cold, but the cough has not been cured for a long time. Even if I just slid my waist and went up the stairs, I was out of breath. After checking, I found that there was something wrong with my heart.

She admitted that it is important to not get healthy when she is young, and her personality is easy to be soft. Every time someone asks her, she always puts a new job in her already full schedule. Between all kinds of responsibilities, it seems that there has never been a leisurely time. Only after entering the mature age did I realize that I would be better for myself. "Now, the most important gift I want to give to myself and my money is health!" she told us.

In order to maintain the bone and muscle mass that are prone to loss in old age, Tian Lingling and Money took regular teaching classes every week to do rejuvenation and weight training. She also started regular massages since she was 70 years old to reduce her daily fatigue. In addition, she also makes good use of the fragments of time in her life to train her brains and keep her vigors flexible. It's like sitting on the pedal car waiting for the red lights, she would observe the car she had passed and quickly calculate the sum of the four numbers of the car license plates. In just 2 minutes, it can also be a good opportunity to prevent dementia!

Recalling the life that has been in its so far, Tian Lingling said that she is a lucky person. As a daughter, I learned a lot of life wisdom from my mother; as a wife, I could know each other with my husband for a long time; as a mother, I saw my daughter grow up safely and each achieved success. No matter how the external environment fluctuates, she can always see the beauty. Cherish things, cherish people, cherish love, the best gift of life is actually in our hands.

Original text: It is suitable from national diplomacy to mother-in-law and daughter-in-law's relationship! Money-returned wife Tian Lingling: A gift that can be turned into swords and jade