The pressure in the name of love is even harder to escape! My daughter-in-law suffered from depression after giving birth, all because her mother-in-law was so sad that she felt so stressed.

The mother-in-law's kindness to her was not what she wanted, and it made her daughter-in-law very painful. The pressure named after love has caused the three mothers to become depressed after birth.

The first mother-in-law works hard to help her confinement, and the daughter-in-law is in a state of trouble after giving birth, and the daughter-in-law is in trouble after giving birth 99}

If you do a street visit market, I believe that most mother-in-law will think they are good mother-in-laws, and most daughters-in-law will not think that mother-in-law is bad, but why do you say that you are confinement and bring children to mother-in-law? Many daughters-in-law have troubles? PTT Mother Version A mother who has a third child expresses the feelings of many daughter-in-law, which is "the pressure and care in the name of love."

The three mother-in-law mentioned, "First, my mother-in-law is very good to me, cares about me, and takes care of me; my sister-in-law is also very good to the children, and is not wrong to me; my husband is a teammate, and he has no understanding of me, and he is very good at taking care of the children." But because of these "goods", "I always think that as long as I say complaints, I am a very bad daughter-in-law and brother "

After giving birth, she gave her mother-in-law confinement. Her mother-in-law gave her baby baby powder, drank water, watched the breast milk show up close, and went into the room to watch the child holding the child and snatch the child. Before giving birth, her mother-in-law asked the child in the next room: "Is the baby in my aunt's belly a younger brother?" In fact, she knew it was her daughter when she was in the test.

These things made her lose their minds when she thought of them, but she asked herself, "Is mother-in-law bad for me?" In fact, she didn't. She said, "She tried her best to cook for me during her first confinement period, and bought me very expensive fruits to replenish; although I couldn't eat them and wanted to sleep, it was always the same. She kept asking me to eat. I was afraid that I wouldn't be able to eat. My mother-in-law's hands were broken and broken because of doing too much housework."

Because of this, she didn't dare to complain, so she could only silently lose her eyes in the room, which was so strong that she broke the surface, and even dreamed that she "pressed the child into the water and drowned."

The second child is still a daughter. She resolutely decided to choose a confinement woman, so she did not have the pressure from her elders, and she gradually learned that she would express her unliked practices and ideas and asked her husband to transfer it, so she had passed it safely.

The mother-in-law said that she wanted to take the third baby back to the southern village, which made her daughter-in-law fall into anxiety again.

The arrival of the third baby was an accident outside the plan. It was just a boy. She was already worried a month before her childbirth, so she chose to go to the confinement center for confinement. She hoped to "separate from all concerns and pressure in the name of love."

Unexpectedly, my mother-in-law and my sister-in-law came to see the baby during the holidays. The mother-in-law joked that she wanted to take the baby back to the south for care. She said embarrassedly, "No, mom will miss her baby!" The mother-in-law replied, "This is my son, you won't bring it back to me, you have to pay me." After that, the three mother became more and more anxious. She looked at her son at home and felt palpitations, stomachache, and disgusted, and couldn't help crying. She said, "I suddenly regretted having a third child. Even if the three babies are so cute, I am so scared. But I just want to think about facing my mother-in-law and sister-in-law. I am afraid that I don't want to hear anything when facing conflicts, and face everything that I hate to fight against my babies." She knew that her postpartum fear broke out again.

The three mother-in-law emphasized, "Mother-in-law is not a warning mother-in-law. She asked us to do whatever we wanted to do when we returned to the south to wash and cook for us, and did not ask me to help. She always asked me what I like to eat, and there were still many good things for me." But she also said, "I talked about using children as a tool for filial piety, and I talked about it with love. My name beat me up, I told the child I gave birth to was taken away, I told you to be nice to me, I can't say anything I dare not say myself."

The mother-in-law's kindness to her was not what she wanted, and it made her very painful. Although it was not often faded, the birth of the third treasure brother, this painful feeling once again emerged. Although my husband felt that she was feeling depressed after giving birth, just like all husbands would say, "Mom won't really do that, don't think too much." She made her very tired and worried.

One of 10 mothers suffer from postpartum depression

According to the National Health Administration, one in every 10 mothers suffer from postpartum depression, and the causes of the occurrence include physiological (such as hormone disorder), psychological (such as excessive self-requirement or perfection) and social causes (such as family expectations or traditional social values). The occurrence time may occur from 6 months after the birth of the baby to 1 year after the birth.

Dr. Huang Zhiwan, the chief physician of the Department of Psychiatry in Linkou Changgeng, said that it is necessary to help determine whether you or your family have the possibility of postpartum depression. At present, the most commonly used is the Adinburgh Postpartum depression assessment scale, which can be used as a tool for self-detection.

If emotional distress really reaches the level of postpartum depression, it is strongly recommended to seek professional help from psychiatric or physical and mental doctors and discuss appropriate drugs and non-pharmaceutical treatments with the doctor.

4 Methods to help mothers overcome postpartum depression

Lin Jiapei, the attending physician of the Department of Psychiatry of the Ministry of Fuli and the hospital, reminded that after becoming a mother, many challenges also followed, which could easily lead to postpartum depression. Mom must first take care of her body and seek foreign aid to generate psychological pressure so that she can recover step by step and overcome her post-production depression.

1. Maintain a stable and stable work and daily life through exercise and regular work and daily life

When mothers are in a bad mood after birth, they need to maintain a stable and stable work and daily life through exercise and regular life. The nurse can evaluate his physical strength and his condition after production. He can only engage in light activities such as yoga, stretching, walking, etc. The key is to keep the body feeling "movement"..

2. Please help when you are in a suitable state of care and let your body and mind rest

When your mother is already in moderate to severe depression, do not carry the pressure on yourself, and you should seek different tasks from different channels. For example: Ask the nanny, go to the confinement center for rest, or ask the family to help take care of the children or share the family affairs to gain time to adjust your feelings.

If your mother has serious and insufficient sleep time, you should seize the time to sleep. However, if you have enough sleep, you should also pay attention to rest on the "spiritual". Leave at least some time for yourself every day. You can also use the leisure time to stay alone with your husband, chat with your partner, and relax, which will help your mother maintain a relaxed state.

3. Practice will talk about your troubles with your family and friends, and you can usually relieve stress and make your heart feel better. However, many mothers will find it difficult to get into trouble after getting a childbirth, or worry that others cannot understand their own worries and are denied and will be difficult to keep in their hearts. The other half can practice sharing emotions together, start with herself, and help her wife express her feelings.

4. For professionals, patients with mild symptoms can slowly overcome their depression through psychological support and maintaining a regular lifestyle. However, if the patient is severely depressed after childbirth, sometimes he needs to use medicine to treat it to prevent the disease from seriously affecting his life. In addition to using drugs to adjust your emotions, mothers can also cooperate with psychological counselors to discuss with professionals to find an outlet for their emotions, or use Teacher Zhang’s specialty and lifeline to complain about their mood anonymously.

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